[W]e need to shift our focus from the baby to the mother.
What I didn’t realise was that I often made it harder for myself. I felt guilty asking for help when I wasn’t coping. I put myself last, all the time. And I never acknowledged that by having a baby, I had also become a mother.
Caring for yourself at a time of huge emotional and physical change is important. It can feel contrary to your instincts, because you love your baby so much, and their needs are so great.
We can all help new mums learn to put themselves first. Don’t let them disappear.
We still need to care for and cherish our babies. But let’s shift our focus occasionally to their mother.
Source: New mothers need to know their mental health is not a luxury
Read the book Hello Baby! Everything New Mums Need to Know About Life with Baby by Heather Irvine.
Know the signs and seek help early. PANDA National Helpline 1300 729 360 panda.org.au
I indulged at the International Marcè Society Conference for Perinatal Mental Health in getting a few books!
📗Eyes Without Sparkle by Elaine Hanzak – the first book I read about a lived experience of postpartum psychosis.
📘Another Twinkle In The Eye. Contemplating another pregnancy after perinatal mental illness by Elaine Hanzak – haven’t been able to read this yet despite borrowing a few times from the library. May bring me closer to making peace with my decision.
📙 Beyond The Baby Blues by Catherine Knox, Benison O’Reilly & Seana Smith – a must have after hearing Dr Vijay Roach speak at the Gidget Foundation breakfast and chatting with Catherine personally.
📗A Mother’s Climb Out of Darkness. A Story about Overcoming Postpartum Psychosis by Jennifer Hentz Moyer – Jennifer is pioneer spokeswoman for education and support for postpartum psychosis and shares her lived experience in this book. This can be a tricky book to find.
📘The Polyvagal Theory. Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions Attachment Communication Self-Regulation by Stephen W. Porges – been on my wish list since meeting Holly Bridges at the MINDD forum.
📙Scared Sick. The role of childhood trauma in adult disease by Robin Karr-Morse with Meredith S. Wiley – how our innate fight-or-flight system can unexpectedly become an agent of chronic illness if overworked in the early stages of life. This intrigued me with knowing the SD Protocol.
If you can’t find me you may find me curled up with a book…
I finally got my very own copy of Down to Earth by Rhonda Hetzel. This has been my go to guide for everything simple living from housework to life stages to savings to finding your rhythm. I am so grateful for the numerous times I have borrowed this book from the library. This week I was looking forward to meeting Rhonda this week on The Simple Home book tour! She has been such an inspiration in the changes I have made in my life.
Rhonda and I at the Library Talk
On Thursday I attended Rhonda’s library book talk at Kogarah Library talking about all things simple living. Rhonda chatted with us how she went from overwhelmed, stressed and burnt out to taking control of life, being self reliant, happy and content in her simple home. Rhonda stopped work and had to replace the income and reduce the cost of living so she started with her food budget. From trying different recipes, new ways of shopping, ways of storing food and not wanting to waste food, Rhonda made her food from scratch and found that it was easier, cheaper, tasted better and was fresher than store bought food. From her food Rhonda moved to reducing the chemicals that she was brining in her home. Rhonda was all about taking the good parts of the old ways and bringing them into the now, simple living with a focus on her home. We all have a busy life and we can pick and choose different possibilities of simple living, and once you are organised usually things are easy on a day to day level.
So many gems of wisdom
- There are a wide range of things possible to a simple home
- Being organised is important
- Buying things we keep, like clothes, are assets and we should look after them
- Money is a tool
- Choose local over organic
- Make your own laundry liquid
- Many don’t look after themselves, be kind to you
- Craft used to be part of housework
Check Down to Earth out in your local library or get a copy from Biome. You can also listen to Rhonda here at The Slow Home Podcast.
A big thank you to Rhonda for sharing her know-how and her new book The Simple Home with us. It was a pleasure to meet you and thank you for signing my copy of my book Down to Earth.
“Rescuing the next generation from the cult of speed means reinventing our whole philosophy of childhood”.
“In Praise of Slowness: How a Worldwide Movement is Challenging the Cult of Speed” by Carl Honoré. A compelling read that I can relate to in so many ways. How we are controlled by time and a fast paced society. From the slow food movement, meditation, health care, parenting, leisure time, work and schooling, slowing down can be positively beneficial.
“Perhaps the greatest challenge of the Slow movement will be to fix our neurotic relationship with time itself”.
Brooke at Slow your Home has interviewed Carl on her podcast The Slow Home Carl Honoré Talks Technology, Good Slow and Getting to Know Your Butcher – SHP009 . Its well worth the listen.
Here is Carl’s TED talk: In Praise of Slowness.
Kate wants it all-her career as a food scientist, her sexy pilot husband, and a family. After the birth of her second child a postpartum psychosis derails her plans.
Source: “Back In Six Weeks” a novel | Sharon Gerdes, Author
Via: Postpartum Psychosis Awareness Facebook
Book available here.